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Eryka Clayton

MOVEMENT + STYLE + CREATIVE DIRECTOR | LA | NY

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I’ve been thinking a lot about happiness and the “New Year, New You” craze - which is fabulous

in sentiment but seems to lack some real actionable tools. So, as some of you know, I have danced most of my life and have taught and coached pre-professional and professional dancers to help them thrive in a very demanding career. One of the most useful tools is to have guidelines to stay positive and motivated by what’s good! The easiest way to do this is to keep in check how we talk to ourselves and to others. I came up with a bit of a challenge that seems to work really well to generate positivity within and to offer it to others.

Here it goes!

Step 1: Make a List of Compliments

Grab a blank sheet of paper or start a note in your phone

Identify a group of people you interact with regularly and think of two complimentary adjectives for each person. Write them down. If you have 10 people you’ll have 20 adjectives. If you want to use the same adjective for multiple people go for it - no need to write it down twice.  The idea is to have a list of complimentary adjectives that are direct thoughts about someone you know (shoot for 15-20 adjectives to start).

Step 2: Mirror Mirror

Pick two adjectives from your master list

Every morning for 1 week look in the mirror and say “I am {adjective 1}! I am {adjective 2}”

*It takes one to know one - so if you were able to identify these qualities in others it means you possess them too.

Step 3: Put it into Action

As you go through your day and interact with people look for the awesomeness in everyone you engage with. Note down these qualities on your list so you keep growing it. If you are comfortable (or even if you’re not but want to anyway) offer that person one of those compliments. You just may make someone’s day. Bonus for you is that it feels good to make others feel good.

Since your list will continue to grow, you can switch up what you say to yourself in the mirror every week. Keep picking two new adjectives weekly.

Overall being nice to others, being nice to ourselves and going out into the world looking for the best in people is a no brainer. It may feel a bit vulnerable at first but you may find it liberating!

Give it a try. I’d love to hear your experiences as well! Feel free to write them in a comment or write me directly!


Friday 01.11.19
Posted by Eryka Clayton
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